什麼是待友之道?

- Is it no matter what his decision is, you will support him 100% without saying a word?

To be continue....

Bill Swanson's 25 Unwritten Rules of Management

A few good pointers for the management world.

1. Learn to say, "I don't know." If used when appropriate, it will be often.
2. It is easier to get into something than it is to get out of it.
3. If you are not criticized, you may not be doing much.
4. Look for what is missing. Many know how to improve what's there, but few can see what isn't there.
5. Viewgraph rule: When something appears on a viewgraph (an overhead transparency), assume the world knows about it, and deal with it accordingly.
6. Work for a boss with whom you are comfortable telling it like it is. Remember that you can't pick your relatives, but you can pick your boss.
7. Constantly review developments to make sure that the actual benefits are what they are supposed to be. Avoid Newton's Law.
8. However menial and trivial your early assignments may appear, give them your best efforts.
9. Persistence or tenacity is the disposition to persevere in spite of difficulties, discouragement, or indifference. Don't be known as a good starter but a poor finisher.
10. In completing a project, don't wait for others; go after them, and make sure it gets done.
11. Confirm your instructions and the commitments of others in writing. Don't assume it will get done!
12. Don't be timid; speak up. Express yourself, and promote your ideas.
13. Practice shows that those who speak the most knowingly and confidently often end up with the assignment to get it done.
14. Strive for brevity and clarity in oral and written reports.
15. Be extremely careful of the accuracy of your statements.
16. Don't overlook the fact that you are working for a boss.* Keep him or her informed. Avoid surprises!* Whatever the boss wants takes top priority.
17. Promises, schedules, and estimates are important instruments in a well-ordered business.* You must make promises. Don't lean on the often-used phrase, "I can't estimate it because it depends upon many uncertain factors."
18. Never direct a complaint to the top. A serious offense is to "cc" a person's boss.
19. When dealing with outsiders, remember that you represent the company. Be careful of your commitments.
20. Cultivate the habit of "boiling matters down" to the simplest terms. An elevator speech is the best way.
21. Don't get excited in engineering emergencies. Keep your feet on the ground.
22. Cultivate the habit of making quick, clean-cut decisions.
23. When making decisions, the pros are much easier to deal with than the cons. Your boss wants to see the cons also.
24. Don't ever lose your sense of humor.
25. Have fun at what you do. It will reflect in your work. No one likes a grump except another grump.

無求與有求

My friend just wrote me this.

You and Jien always mention less desire and know what is enough, demand less and thus feeling satisfied always. Well, good philosophy, nothing wrong with this. Just that I or maybe jeff might post a different attitude, we actually show there is some "want and desire" in life to gain more satisfaction.

Now I don't understand one thing, how could person who announce less desire have built-up loans while person who declare to desire something has nothing, virtually debt free? Logically this does not make sense right? Isn't it should be the other way around?

Ahh, not going into the arguement of who is right and what justification is behind, turth is reality and mindset does not match. One has to be honest to oneself, you actually have more desire and more needs. I think you need to change your title to: "You Qiu".

"Realizing insufficiency will lead to a contented heart, with desire one knows where demand lies."

With this, I respect the hunger and motive behind, as a man you rise the guts and go after your prey, honestly.

It's all in perspective, Jen. There is only a fine line between "wu qiu" and "you qiu".

I agree that "wu qiu" is a noble word. There are very few people can be that. The "wu qiu" that I refer to is more like, buying a car rather than a fancy BMW that doesn't fit our lifestyle; having a house rather than a mansion that we only use 25% of the space.

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